Dementia Resilience - 6.3.18

Sunday, June 3rd

Jill Lorentz originally hails from the great farm country land of Illinois and has lived in Denver since 1984. When her mom was diagnosed with a form of dementia in the early 90's, Jill dedicated her life to learning about the disease, which lead to her career path of working with families and professionals who need assistance in this area as well. Believing caregivers can hold the key to setting the tone of emotional stability for the person with dementia, Dementia Resilience with Jill Lorentz sponsored by Belleview Heights Alzheimer’s Special Care Center will take an in depth look at how we can strengthen our techniques, strategies, and even our compassion to help people live with this disease; not to struggle with it. Our show's goal is to have a candid conversation about dementia and its effects on those it touches and to ignore ridiculous talk of a stigma attached to Alzheimer's. Resilience is your ability to adapt well and recover quickly after stress, by overcoming obstacles and adversity to find a positive outcome. People who have a resilient disposition are better able to maintain poise and a healthy level of physical and psychological awareness in the face of life's challenges. This 1/2 hour radio show, Sunday mornings from 10:00 -10:30 will explore avenues of intentional care and finding moments of joy while living with dementia. 

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Welcome to the mental resilience wind chill arrest sponsored by ability heights alzheimer's special care center. I can't in conversation as we learn about dementia and alzheimer's and it's effects on the people we love. Jill has years of dedication and experience and so do you adapt to recover and overcome obstacles and held a final positive outcome. It's time for dementia resilience within Jill Lauren yes. Hey good morning everybody. Boy it is a cloudy day in Denver today that was supposed to have nice weather I think most of the day today wanted to reach out. And talk to neighbors. Of people that have alzheimer's. Caregivers. In my caregiver nations who are doing it at a job they never asked for a bit some consider. On her you know it's amazing to me I I find people at time that say they didn't ever expect to be caregiver was unexpected. Title and job and many people consider it an honor and a privilege secure for somebody that they loved but they did not expect to have that 24 hour round the clock care for that person. He knows so now summer is here I bring up a couple of things that. I think we should be more and more aware of especially in our neighborhood so first I wanna start by talking to neighbors. How do we make better choices about the people who live in our neighborhood in. We maybe know or don't know is set quiet house it's covered with a lot of bushes and and we know somebody lives there she comes out once in awhile he comes out once in awhile checked the mail and you know so on and so forth. And some people like to be left alone by design. But we also have to help our fellow human beings check out our neighbors go over and say hey is everything working and it's pretty hot day. Is your conditioning working are you aria cool enough. Are there wind as she can't get open if you want to air that house out you know sometimes after the the long winters we need death. Get rid of some of the Destin side and and so on and so forth and and how can we re willing really work with those people ask maybe if you can. Come in and visit or or bring over some tea did you get their phone number. Everett anytime and all the ten or twenty years to live next door to mom. You know his key age they need more help. And as neighbors it would behoove us to try to help everybody. Live well and am with quality and we know that there's a lot of people who are living by themselves who are lonely. Who have some type of dementia and could possibly need your help. So easy typical are not on that to work what can she do could you ask. Did they need somebody to mow their lawn. Wouldn't wouldn't help if you could wash and their windows. Do they need do water rainy Jane could you get some of the neighbors together and see if you could. You know help weed their yard and do little yard word. Waters some some plants that. It'd just seeking get that person become mountaintop tone. And if they repeat themselves or say the same things over again or ask a question about what timing here it is don't get freaked out by that. He may be meeting alzheimer's or different types of dementia for the first time. But just understand that that person may be just the cognitive impairment has taken over a little bit it's been a long tense is it had a conversation with somebody. And they might be a little bit nervous but what you got to know that person. TJ invite him over for dinner. Page you just make sure that they're they're front porch is swept. That maybe get rid of the cobwebs and all of the spiders around the front door the back door sweet talk their porridge. Pull out a rocker something from the from the story jury their garage since then on the front porch they can sit and enjoy themselves. You know waved to measure go I. If we're gonna have a and that a neighborhood. Party or something like that that you could invite him to let everybody meet mr. or miss Smith you know whoever. Yeah sure. I'm really sure though a lot of folks could really use the help of a neighbor checking in on making sure. That they're doing OK and if you can get to know you can get inside their house. Could you helped them open some windows could you make sure everything's functioning properly they're sheet they're here. That if he can peek inside their refrigerator did have expired food is it clean is it dirty just to sort of an evaluation. It it would not hurt at all if you saw something that looked a Mitt she might find chatter dog feces and their house or something like that. And as you did maybe you could call a local police department and ask them to come over and do wellness check. If they find out that person is is living in conditions that that are not humane are healthy for them. They could certainly. Call APS adult protective services. And or maybe family members and say hey did you know that your loved one is living conditions at that I just don't seem healthy for them. There wearing clothes that are not appropriate for the weather. The house is dusty the person was sneezing a lot they don't seem in good health. All those kind of things could really helped maybe you can bond together as as a family or may burst. And decent spring cleaning at their house is suggesting some MacKey mean mop and their floors clean the next counters if they'll let you. Brit person in cheerful don't ignore the person in the neighborhood that is lonely and alone and that goes for anybody. Certain that certainly are friends with diagnosis of alzheimer's could really really ease our health so. So think about those kinds of things. Do you they have an animal. Does that animal looks like it's fed well. Does it have super long nails that it's walking around on it can't hardly walk. Is there you know feces in the house can you change out some cat litter forum. You know those animals need protection to an oftentimes people with. Alzheimer's. And different types of dementia Louie body he though Campbell sclerosis Parkinson's disease are memory loss. There there are all kind of in that same boat of needing a little bit of extra assistance so. About those kinds of things. And if you do get to know them a little bit better could JPG dance with that puts music signed would you notice around the house today have. Military. You know pictures and things like data on the wall can have conversations with them about some that was important to them at one point their life. Do they have needed blankets PG talked about things like that talked about the famine that's. Borrowing a baby sit down and write some letters with them to family members that are. Are no longer here in the state don't see him very often so on so forth he they have some unopened mail that maybe you could this system with. Christie a friend how can we how can we be better about caring for our. Other humans that are human beings are walking around here in this country. I really think that that we need to sometimes stop and take a look summertime brings out a lot of fun in the best in Madison. People are a lot I even wanting to get out and walked in parks and walked their dogs and things like that and that. Did you have an opportunity to work with somebody who lives in your neighborhood. That is showing some type of cognitive impairment memory must. You can make a difference in their life you can make them happier just for a couple of hours. Just for a few minutes take them a repeat of letters sent jelly sandwich make sure they've got a nice cold drink. If you see him now on the porch just a wave just a kind word would go an awful long way. So we'll that it is for family and friends and neighbors. When we come back after our break I want to talk about. Things that caregivers have told me about the surprises that they had. The things they weren't expecting when they became caregivers or somebody they love or friend or whoever was. And am I wanna talk about some of those things. And then what other people who are caregivers who are doing here really well and have their life balanced and and enjoy cure giving what they're doing to combat some of the stresses that they have I think we can have a nice mix of what's going on out there. And then how can we make a difference how we make it better how can I help somebody to have some new ideas about ways which you can pull your work life. Your family life and your cure your life together that benefits everybody and makes you feel appreciated less stressed and so forth. If you would diagnosis feeling a whole lot more love and care Ford. Cared for and that people still care about who they are that there are still here I rented a short break we'll be right back with dementia resilience. Chiller ribs. Making the decision to place your loved one in the care of others is one of the most difficult decisions you'll ever have to make if that's someone special is in your life and his needing memory care. Bellevue heights is the place to call home. Bellevue heights part of the GA's senior living Stanley is deeply committed to serving people living with alzheimer's and other related dimensions. Living with purpose and meaning is the best reward at Bellevue heights alzheimer's special care center. Your loved one will live life to its fullest licensed nurses on staff 24 hours today. Compassionate caregivers. Three well balanced meals and three healthy snacks are a few key elements of the G-8 eat age difference. We also offer fully furnished private and semi private rooms and meaningful activities in scheduled outings. Called Bellevue heights at 3036900700. To learn more about the high standard of individualized care they can offer your loved ones. Bellevue heights alzheimer's special care center. Is located at 14 or 500. East Bellevue avenue in Aurora is it JEA senior living dot com. Or call 3036900700. To schedule a tour come home to Stanley come home to Bellevue types. Welcome to dementia resilience we chill arrest sponsored by building heights alzheimer's special care center. I can't in conversation as we learn about dementia and alzheimer's and it's effects on the people we love Jill has years of dedication and experience so do you adapt. Recover and overcome obstacles and help find a positive outcome. It's time for dementia resilience within Jill horrendous. Okay we're back. Can I talk about some of the the stresses that have been expressed to me. From different. Caregivers primary or not. And how their lifestyle change. It daily. Schedule changed just to care for this person and it is always say he had a family member it Columbia. France it could be. Ex in law it could be. It could be a family member can be 'cause then wife husband. Daughters sons you know. On a non. A mother father yourself all right so some things at that I've been told that have changed that really rocked their world was. They all of a sudden had to start visiting every day. Every single day or at least a couple times more weak than they used to which really took a toll on him. I know a lady that moved her dad into the community and she was literally dared. Every day she came straight from work and I could see how the stress was wearing on her. And I tried to tell you don't have to come every day you put him in the care of someone else and they may not do it the way you did it but. But they're doing good job. It's taken enough to go see a friend or something. Other people have said that they took a second shift job just to be home during the day they gave up. Their social life they're no longer going out with friends first. Coffee or drink or something like that. A lot of people have to take family medical leave back the FM LA. And come and that and stay with eleven for X amount of time just to get. All of there. Finances and the lifestyle. Changes and so forth in order. And that created absence from work so some people who. Moved a good friend of mine Bard moved to Wichita to be with her mom. She used to work the Alzheimer's Association with me in I know that that was a huge change for her to live in Colorado Springs to go to Wichita but she's making the best seven. And dude what she can't. Some folks retire early. Cash and my friend Elena that two have Bluetooth different now she just have to move to house a little closer to that person. I have a client who recently is trying to sell her business because she can not run her construction business. With her husband's FTD so these are issues that people have. They had to become full time caregivers. And they feel like they're full time nurses full time therapist and dietitians. And nutritionists and things like that. Now they have to drive this person everywhere they go they might have taken to the doctor might have to take him to the dentist. Various things of that nature which really can disrupt cheer your lifestyle. What he had to take your loved ones who has alzheimer's or different a different type of memory loss of dementia. To a baseball game of your grandchild or something like that that's really disrupt you are life. Calling more often. Because you have to make sure that that found therein therein not wandering around the neighborhood. Maybe you have to go over ending balance your checkbook and and make sure that all their bills are paid Enos so on and so forth. A lot of people have had to come in and hire a care from Michael home care company. Have you ever considered may be. Not only hiring a home care company but the date cheers around town the adult day cares there are great great programs out about Denver my primary archer runs that program. Fantastic program where you can add to eleven bill. On a high core to a restaurant or just work. We're living and working and socializing with other people with alzheimer's. Has been really great for the people that program. You could also go to a support group obviously have talked about that quite a bit. But so could you let him go to they can go to a support group with people with the diagnosis. Some of the other stresses that people have this having to wake up in and give those folks medications all the time that they didn't have to do yet in the past or check. Blood levels or diabetic levels and things like that. People. It up and have to go to church. And now they can't do that anymore they've had to give up going to church and going on the social outings and and meeting friends for drinks after work and so on and so forth. So peep pet I talked to that seemed to balance is really well. I'd ask questions about how did they make it better how did they tried to utilize. The friends and end and people on their life. Sit to help them one of the biggest things they say is they reach out for help. They'll let people at their local church or their local book club or their local. Meeting clubs phones bongo and things like that. Know that they need a little assistance could somebody come over and visit for an hour with mom or that are there has been so that they can go out for a little bit. Sometimes it's taking a class. You know I provide classes for family caregivers so that I can help them learn more about communication skills of how to work with activities of daily living. And I do that because I think it's important for people understand. How the brain works and when it's impaired what's not working well. And I know that when they have that information they have that knowledge in their back pocket they don't get so rattled by repetitive questions or. No I can't do this. I know I've said before but it bears saying again when a person with alzheimer's or a memory. Memory type of dementia says no it doesn't mean no it means they've forgotten how to do what you asked them to do. Remember that people. So as an example they might say woman might say no I don't wanna help people laundry and she's full of laundry her entire life but she watches you have models after you can just quietly hands her one of those towels. But if the Astros straight out to help people laundry should just looking in say no. So it no doesn't mean no it means I've forgotten how to do that remember that. Pay depending on how you feel about it prayer and faith can go a long way for it was family and friends for strength for. What you're doing. Remember to reach into that bag and find lots of love and compassion for those folks that you're working with and laughed a lot for gosh sakes. Laughter situations that go on if if they say something funny or they. Or they do something funny or they you are wearing an outfit that doesn't. Matched. Civil she looked really colorful teams. You're gonna get his attention with that outfit that looks fans think he even if it doesn't match two years. Find it rests at the final respite care get away for a few hours. Buying that tying for yourself. When you do that you find more patience and I promised shared that will make a huge difference patients whose aim. Non. Wage and if you can't get out of the house and you're there with your person that she care for. Remember there are online support groups frontal temporal has an online support group. At TD dot org I believe it is you can always call the Alzheimer's Association then asked for help. And maybe takes the time to do that when that person is common content watching the TV show or taking a nap. Things like pet. Go out sand. Aid which you loved and have a picnic lunch in the backyard well maybe you can. Work on their Gardner had them come to your house play your cleaning your house and and doing some things around your own house that you can get done when they are in a common content. A place and hey. By all means if you have to sit down and have a cup of coffee and shed a few tears and grieve a little bit but this. A long long disease and long goodbye to go right ahead it is perfectly okay. To grieve. And I love and respect your loved one and have memories of them how they once word. But then you've got it to lift yourself back up. Get off your knees. Stop your cry and you can have a PD party but he got to give back in the game because having down days and bad days don't work for anybody. We're gonna take another break and we'll be right back with more conversation about caregiver. Nation and how you can care for yourself. Living and working with alzheimer's and other dimensions can often be challenging. Summer resilience training provides education and utilizing non medical approaches for those who work with our friends are affected by dementia. Delete delete delete one on one assistance we provide classes which helped them understand diseases affecting their loved ones. Different strategies and techniques for six that's with the activities of daily living and working with confusing behaviors. We offering in home sustenance. Education programs into killing persons under your philosophies are offered professional caregivers working in communities and homes and which can be customized for their staff. Training is also available for first responders. We're passionate that people would dimensions and such as alzheimer's parkinson's and others are approaching what compassion and understanding. And those who work with them. All the tools they need for six us. Call us at some resilience training 3034206988. To schedule a class or in home assessment. Visit our website at summit resilience training dot com for more information. Welcome to dementia resilience we chill arrest sponsored by ability heights alzheimer's special care center. I candid conversation as we learn about dementia and alzheimer's and it's effects on the people we love. Jill has years of dedication and experience help you adapt to recover and overcome obstacles and how will find a positive outcome. It's time for dementia resilience with the Jill horrendous. You were back and talking about how we can. Who live our lives fully with equality while we are care giving for a person with alzheimer's or different types of memories dimensions. Well first of all one of the things I want you remember is you do in the best you can with the circumstances you have. You may get frustrated that family and friends don't come around anymore. That happens sometimes. Sometimes we chooses to do this on our own because of our own choices we don't ask people to help us. We don't. Look for someone's help for advice and when we get and that red we really struggle when that. Person who's into a pure community because you don't trust how other people care for your loved one so one of the things you could do with that is. Make sure you don't take anything personally. With here with the family members that don't understand or with the person that has a disease that might say something that. Seems like it could had a filter their cookies that are you trying to kill me with deputy judges gave me your. Repetitive questions are angry because you're asking them to invade. All those things are kind of par for the course so. If they don't have a big day that's our right not everybody has to be a day you can come back on another day. And try again this is not the stereotypical disease. And any sort any of the memory loss diseases as I said again earlier. The parkinson's 80% of people with parkinson's have memory must I don't know people know that. They also have hallucinations. We know that people with alzheimer's have extreme memory loss throughout the course of their disease and gets worse as they progress. I hit a pimple sclerosis is the same. Louis body dementia is a saint and when we you know when our folks have troubling reactions to triggers. Or even things that didn't trigger them. Just try to put yourself in their she used. Don't try to intervene all the time sometimes being quiet around them is best. Less is more. Get out of the way end and eliminate over stimulating situations. Try a soft music. Be understanding bear with them trying not to fix everything all the time. Talk directly to them how are you feeling what's going on are you located game. Why Ares said dear no. A yes or no question will be chill long way sometimes it will just say yes or no or they will expand on that issue. So what Peta definitely look at all these different. Ideas and think about if if it's something that. That you can remember for them that is fine or a happy time happy memory and bring it up. They might actually. Start laughing at a situation where you thought it wasn't going to ever get better. Usually life stories. Talk about something they did it work talk about experiencing I had my talk about vacations that they went on. Different. Relationships as they've had to. Like we've all got somebody in the family that made us laugh at one time or was it. That goofy relative that everybody knew about have a few laughs at their expense who cares tough. Tell Obama our life right. Of won't always leave that be bad we will have some bad days that always think of they did days that you can have and if worst comes to worship sit with them. Hold their hand take a walk be silent you which you can to make that person feel common content most of the time. Okay well I hope I give you some good good ideas today. Next week I'm gonna have a guest on that I had on before I had him on last year's name is Carrie Johnson. And he works with the district attorney's office of Jefferson County. And Kerry's gonna command and talked just about fraud prevention and then we'll have some new ideas since the last time he was here. But what are things that we're gonna embark on and we're really gonna talk about is what we call them what commode disciples. What happens as there are people who popped up all over the city. Promising that they can reverse dementia or they can slow the progression. Of the disease and unfortunately. They're not just saying things like that they take it to another level and they charge. Our friends with diagnosis and their families and people who are afraid of getting this disease getting alzheimer's or hit the Campbell's Cloris assert any of them. Thousands of dollars promising that they can cure or reversed their disease or slow the progression and we know that they can't and that as. Airy. Johnson said to me from the DA's office and even them. My friend Randy from the Colorado department of health. We get rid of one and they pop back up that's what we call Nowak Moses like that game Williams whacked him down and then have focused ops up. We're gonna talk about what can we do to prevent. Elder fraud what actually do to prevent people who will use our credit cards credit card theft. Mail fraud. And especially these folks that make promises that they cannot keep. And don't believe everything you read in the book to bear some books out there recently to say the same thing. That they can. Cure alzheimer's or reverse alzheimer's listen I don't wanna be nay Sayer I don't want to rain on everybody's parade. But here's a state of the union right now. There is no blood test that can be taken that can tell you you have alzheimer's. Right now. Even Parkinson's disease or Louis body these are done by PT scans by. Major neurologist. Who know what they're doing that have the ability to read these scans in our licensed your read these scans. And do Euro behavioral exams with you and help you understand. What disease you might have where is going and how we can help you live well with these diseases and I want you to trust and that. Because we have way too many people that are spending ten to 20000 dollars or life savings. When they live on a thousand dollars or 11100 dollars with the Social Security. And mayor may not have a pension coming in and they are being robbed blind by people right here in Denver. That will take their money and run and it's it's. Unsettling it's it it makes me angry and Carrie and I are gonna talk about it end. And it's criminal it is absolutely criminal. And I'm working on one of those cases right now with all the entities I just told you and organ hopefully get to the bottom in at least have one or two less of kind of the snake oil salesman out there I am trying to take your money and make you believe that they can do something. With your disease that they cannot so it's going to be a fascinating conversation with Kerry Johnson. I'm cool I'm so glad and grateful to him. To come back and talk about these things with us and by the way senior law day. Which yesterday Kerry was busy with that and I hope that anybody that attended that Jefferson County. I had did time at. And learned a lot so that's so we do here folks I try with dementia resilience with chiller rants to provide as much information as I can't about different types of dementia. And to help all the people on my caregiver nation and my friends the diagnosis to live well and have. Lots of quality of life and maintain their dignity if you need to get a hold me. Call my office at 3034206988. 3034206988. You can reach me on summit resilience training dot com. And you can deal sing song was resilience RES high time. He ends CE summit resilience train dot com I've got lots and lots of free information for you. Different different entities that you can contact if you're having any issues. From legal to. Medicaid to Medicare to how to choose a pure community all kinds of information. I also have my show listed here on the weekend programming crews in 1430. AM Denver and you can just go on that programming look at the weekend programming handful of dementia resilience and listen with children's and listen to my shows are you can listen to that podcast that I load on Apple's stitcher. ITunes. Sounds clouds Spotify and Google play AM police. Join those so that you giddy and nag join him so that you can get those every time they come up. All right I'll see you next week and everybody have a great weekend. You've been listening to dementia resilience would Jill horrendous sponsors five million price alzheimer's specialist pierce and visit her website at some resilience training dot com. Com to learn more and join us next week as we learn more about dementia alzheimer's and overcoming obstacles for the positive outcome. See you next time.